Wednesday, December 24, 2014

The Feelings of Christmas

It’s Christmas – be happy! 
Isn’t that how the song goes? But what if someone reading this, doesn’t feel happy? What if Christmas brings feelings of depression and sadness? In fact, “Christmas is the time of year that people experience a high incidence of depression” (Psychology Today, 2010). 
According to an article I read, some of the reasons for depression include:
·         Seasonal Affective Disorder (related to changes in the amount of daylight we get)

·         The commercialization of the holiday

·         Ruminating about how inadequate our lives are compared to everyone else’s life

·         The pressure to spend money that we don’t have to spend

·         Social gathering expectations, and

·         Feeling sad because loved ones are no longer here to share Christmas with us.

Their last point seems to capture me. I have great childhood memories of grandparents, parents and family members gathering to enjoy Christmas. Then later during married life, I recall wonderful Christmas memories of my own family with 4 busy boys, grandparents and family - enjoying lots of food and love. So during the Christmas season, when I sense a sadness beginning to take root, I take time to reflect and remember my grandparents and parents. I may grab a photo album and smile my way through all the pictures. I do this with a sense of great fondness and thank God for His blessings.

But despite my acknowledging His continued blessings, the memory of loved ones gone still catches me off guard each Christmas. So I allow myself a 5 minute pity party and then instead of dwelling on the feelings of sadness, I reach out to others that may need a smile or a listening ear. Isn’t that what Jesus meant when He said, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4) or “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God” (Hebrews 13:16).

Yesterday I spent time with a single mom. It energizes me when I get to spend time listening to how God is working in someone’s life! Being a single parent is not easy. We laughed and praised God for the miracles happening right here in Portland Maine!

If you are feeling sad this Christmas season, I encourage you to spend time listening to another person’s story. May Jesus energize you in similar ways that He did for me. Remember that how we live life is our choice. Today I pray that you choose to bless others with the gifts God has given to you ~  
Merry Christmas, love, Nancy

Friday, May 16, 2014

Life in 2014

This is the first time that I have visited my blog in 8 months. What have I been up to you ask? Graduate school. Sigh...A labor of love. It has been many years since I was enrolled in formal education. But I am enjoying it despite the enormous amount of time and energy it is taking to accomplish it.

To help me along this journey, my husband has taken on every household domestic chore, except cooking. That took some getting used to because he does the chores so differently than I do.
I really thought I had a corner on being the domestic queen. Ha! But guess what? I always have clean clothes and a clean dish to use. And I am so appreciative of what he does to keep us going. "A cheerful heart is good medicine," (Proverbs 17:22).

Something God has shown me during this time of studies is that we can do anything with His strength and wisdom. Working a full time job and studying every night does not allow for much else and some nights were tougher than others to get through, but He strengthened me every time I needed it. His strength is perfect when our strength is gone. He can do the same for you, my friend.   Whatever you are going through or dream about accomplishing, first give it to God. Ask Him and then rest in your choice by stepping out in faith. The weak become strong with God's power. That is what I have learned this past year. 

Well, back to my books! I just wanted to stop by and say hello to whoever happens upon this blog. I have not given up that I will return some day to consistently write again. For now, enjoy the archives. May God bless you.


See you soon~
Love, Nancy